साँवले होठों वाली: वो अबला है



         

हाँ सच ही तो हैवो अबला है

छलक उठती हैं आँखें उसकी, तुम्हारी वेदना देख के
फैला लेती है आँचल अपना, तुम्हारी संवेदना सुन के 

नही खड़ी रह सकती, तुम्हारे शारीरिक बल के सामने
रो उठती है वो, तुम्हारी हर कटु बात के आगे 

उसकी यही विवशता है, तुम्हे स्नेह वो करती है
पीछे पीछे चल कर के, तुमको पुरुष बनती है 

कभी मातृ धर्म, कभी पत्नी धर्म निभाती है
तुम्हे जीवन देने हेतु, अपना लहू पिलाती है 

कभी अर्धांगनी बन के, तन मन न्योछावर करती है
हार के सबकुछ अपना भी वह फूले नही समाती है

द्रौपदी कह उसका चीर हरण कर लेते हो
अपने को पुरुष बता, व्यर्थ ही खुश हो लेते हो 

सर्वस्व समर्पित करने पर भी, जब संतुष्ट नही तुम होते हो
लेने लग जाते हो अग्नि परीक्षा, जब हवा देनी हो पुरुषार्थ को 

           सच ही कहते हो तुम वो अबला है
           सच ही कहते हो तुम वो अबला है 

बस बहुत हुआ, बने रहने दो उसे अबला
मत लो उसके मौन की परीक्षा
अब तुम सीमा लाँघ रहे हो
अपने विनाश समीप स्वयं जा रहे हो
वो शक्ति है, वो ज्वाला है
वो जननी है, वो माता है 

उसमे छमता है सर्वनाश कर देने की, इस बात को कभी न वो बल देगी
उसे आदत है जीवन देने की, वो क्षमा तुम्हे भी कर देगी
तुम्हारे पश्चाताप की एक वाणी, उसे फिर अबला बना देगी
वह ममता से विवश हो, अपना आँचल फैला देगी
उसका सम्मान करो,
उस बेटी पे अभिमान करो
मत होने दो उसका चीर हरण,
मत करो उसका प्राण हनन
उस शक्ति को बने रहने दो अबला
           तुम पुरुषार्थ दिखाओ, वो उसमे खुश हो जाती है
           हाँ सच ही कहते हो तुम, वो अबला है वो नारी है
["वो अबला है" लामया द्वारा लिखी "साँवले होठों वाली" संग्रह की पहली कविता है. और पढ़ने के लिए देखें saanwale hothon wali]

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Picture: by Kamini Raghavan 

Perspectives #LGBT

Overall development vs Personal Freedom - LGBT

Sometimes you need a wider perspective to look at your personal freedom.

 हम पंछी उन्मुक्त गगन के
पिंजरबद्ध न गा पाऍंगे
कनक-तीलियों से टकराकर
पुलकित पंख टूट जाऍंगे ।

 स्वर्ण-श्रृंखला के बंधन में
अपनी गति, उड़ान सब भूले
बस सपनों में देख रहे हैं
तरू की फुनगी पर के झूले ।

 नीड़ न दो, चाहे टहनी का
आश्रय छिन्न-भिन्न कर डालो
लेकिन पंख दिए हैं तो
आकुल उड़ान में विघ्न न डालो ।

                                                      - शिवमंगल सिंह सुमन

फिर भी चिड़िया
मुक्ति का गाना गाएगी,
मारे जाने की आशंका से भरे होने पर भी,
पिंजरे में जितना अंग निकल सकेगा, निकालेगी,
हरसूँ ज़ोर लगाएगी
और पिंजड़ा टूट जाने या खुल जाने पर उड़ जाएगी।
                                                                                         
                                                                                         - सर्वेश्वरदयाल सक्सेना

Through love’s great power to be made whole
In mind and body, heart and soul—
Through freedom to find joy, or be
By dint of joy itself set free
In love and in companionhood:
This is the true and natural good.

To undo justice, and to seek
To quash the rights that guard the weak—
To sneer at love, and wrench apart
The bonds of body, mind and heart
With specious reason and no rhyme:
This is the true unnatural crime.

                                                                                           - Vikram Seth



In one perspective (narrower) there is a person and the world around that person seems to be prospering. In another perspective (wider) there are two persons, the world around them is the same as before, but each of them are homosexuals and are caged to separation.
The poems above are the desire of a caged bird , namely "hum panchhi unmukt gagan ke" and "mukti ki akanksha"

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The Paan-Dukaan Songs of Bollywood

The Paan-Dukaan Songs of Bollywood


Once upon a time when there were no smartphones, iPods or walkmans, the world of music players was ruled by tape recorders and decks and sound boxes.  Then, the popularity of music was not decided on internet, but on the streets, traffic signals and highways. The paan shops on the chowk, the local buses and the truck drivers on the ply, were the chief contributors of a song's popularity. The quality of a paan-wala was not decided by the amount of kattha-choona he put in the kalkatiya patta (a dark green betel leaf), but by the size of the sound boxes he had. Passengers would spend ages on the bus stand waiting for the buses with "meuzik chaloo hai" board on them. The truck drivers would leave their sound systems blazing when they stopped at the dhabas for the community welfare. They were the knights of the musical crusade, and their contribution to Indian cinema and Bollywood music is immense.
Though they played (and still play) the seasonal hits, there were some songs they made their own. These songs were neither lecherous nor dhinchak. These were the songs that put an extra misree in the meetha patta  (sweet betel leaf) or invoked amorous feelings between the co-passengers on the bus from Mukherjee Nagar to North Campus or shared the pain of the lonely heart of a truck-driver on the night highways . Whether you stop to mouth a Magahi paan (A type of pan famous in Bihar) in Ghatkopar or board a 407 from Begusarai to Barauni or take a trekker from cooperative colony to sector 4 in Bokaro, there is a big chance that you will still listen to one of these songs that we fondly call paan-dukaan songs.
Though these songs are as they say 'evergreen' and are definitely popular, their popularity has become their undoing. All of us have heard them so many times, that they have either come to be ridiculed as 'class nahi hai' or at times have really become intolerable (saala dimag annas kar dihish).
We, at TheBlueEyedSon set out to find and celebrate the top twelve paan-dukaan songs of Bollywood and here is our final list

1. Ek Aisi Ladki Thi

Movie: Dilwale (1994)
Music: Nadeem-Shravan
Singer: Alka Yagnik & Kumar Sanu

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2. Haan Maine Bhi Pyar Kiya Hai

Movie: Haan Maine Bhi Pyar Kiya Hai (2002)
Music: Nadeem-Shravan
Singer:Alka Yagnik & Kumar Sanu

3. Dil Mat Dena Meri Soutan Ko

Movie: Chhupa Rustam : A Musical Thriller :-) (2001)
Music: Anand-Milind
Singer: Alka Yagnik

4. Aayega Maza Ab Barsaat Ka

Movie: Andaz (2003)
Music: Nadeem- Shravan
Singer: Alka Yagnik, Babul Supriyo

5. Hum Tumhare Hain Tumhare Sanam

Movie: Hum Tumhare Hain Sanam (2002)
Music: Nikhil - Vinay
Singer: Udit Narayan, Anuradha Paudwal

6. Tu Dharti Pe Chahe

Movie: Jeet (1996)
Music: Nadeem-Shravan
Singer: Alka Yagnik, Kumar Sanu

7. Itna Main Chahoon Tujhe

Movie: Raaz (2002)
Music: Nadeem-Shravan
Singer: Alka Yagnik, Udit Narayan

8. Woh Ladki Bahut Yaad Aati Hai

Movie: Qayamat (2003)
Music: Nadeem-Shravan
Singer: Kumar Sanu, Alka Yagnik 

9. Kitna Haseen Chehra

Movie: Dilwale (1994)
Music: Nadeem-Shravan
Singer: Kumar Sanu

 

10. Tum Dil Ki Dhadkan Mein

Movie: Dhadkan (2000)
Music: Nadeem-Shravan
Singer: Abhijeet

11. Barsat Ke Din Aaye

Movie: Barsaat (2005)
Music: Nadeem-Shravan
Singer: Kumar Sanu, Alka Yagnik

12. Chori Chori Dil Tera

Movie: Phool aur Angar (1993)
Music: Anu Malik
Singer: Kumar Sanu, Sujata Goswami

 

These songs have remained with us. You can still find people asking "dilwale ka gana bajao" (play dilwale songs) in buses. Of course, we want you to smile at this list. But we hope that in that smile there will be a hint of nostalgia blended with the ridicule.

By the next time you go to a party, you can try playing these in a loop just to freak out :-P

Songs That Just Missed This List:

Dilbar Dilbar (Sirf Tum)
Sheesha Ho Ya Dil Ho (Aasha)
Tere Naam (Tere Naam)

Also Ran:

Raahon Mein Unse Mulakat (Vijaypath)
Utha Le Jaoonga (Ye Dil Aashiqana)
Pardesi Pardesi (Raja Hindustani)
Angoori Badan (Jaanwar)
Mubarak Ho Tumko (Haan Maine Bhi Pyar Kiya Hai)
If you feel we have missed some deserving songs, please leave the details in the comments. We will include them (with credits) if we share your views.
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Co-Authored by +Ritu raj +Nikhil Anand and contributions from Nishant Singh


The Lost Rambler: The Ten Commandments of Motorcycle Tours


                         


Touring on motorcycles is what pumps every biker with the sense of freedom, the freedom to feel the wind blazing past his/her helmet, the endurance to sustain the battle of heat, chill and rain. Touring is something beyond commuting. Commuting helps a biker to gain the skills, knowledge and experience which is in fact the prerequisite for touring. Long rides on motorcycles is not only about deciding the destination and understanding the map, Its lot more than that. Experts say that the first long tour for anyone should be as a pillion. I have done many rides as pillion with my father before hitting the road as a rider. Being a pillion lets you experience almost the same discomfort, fatigue, body aches as the rider feels, except for the fact that the control is in the rider’s hand. Along with enjoying the views and the clean black tarmac colliding with the horizon, a pillion should be aware of everything the rider encounters during the ride. To brush up the basic riding skills is what makes a rider, a better tourer and that can be best experienced and done when you start as a pillion. Thereafter,  depending upon your confidence and skill, venturing alone is fine. So here goes the 10 useful mantras which you should keep in mind before hitting the road.

1.   PREPARING YOUR MOTORCYCLE :


The first thing is to know your motorcycle well, because this is what will take you to the destination without any hastle. Wash the bike properly and get your bike pre-checked. The major components under check should be –
  1. The control cables (Clutch, brake, choke and throttle).
  2. Tyres ( Tubeless tyres are better than Tube type as it is easier to repair punctures, but should not be a   problem if you    are      capable of repairing the tube type one).
  3. Brakes – Check the disc pads and the brake shoes.
  4. Alignment of the handle bars (with side mirrors on), forks.
Battery status (especially for the bikes without Kick).
  1. Engine oils & Brake oil. 
  2. General nuts & bolts.
  3. Fill up the tank up to around 85 % of the fuel tank capacity.


2.   THE ESSENTIALS – WHAT TO CARRY :

Following are the required essentials that a tourer should always cross check before starting the ride
  1. Valid documents - PUC, Insurance & Registration.
  2. Riding gears  - people think adversely (as show offs) about these riding gears which plays their part in the event of a crash          well and then only we get to know their importance. The riding gears to be carried along includes - riding jacket (rain proof)        with guards, riding pants ( knee guards as substitute), shoes (Preferable boots), Gloves, Balaclava and a good full faced clean      (Free from fungus and the sweat smell) Helmet.
                                            
  3. Saddle bag (and bungee cords to tie them tightly) to carry all the luggage items, always remember to keep the saddle bags  light and balanced as too much weight can make your bike slide when attempting to brake hard (Because of movement of centre of gravity).
  4. First aid kit -  Bandage - 2 rolls, Cotton-1, Crepe Bandage-1, Antiseptic liquid-1, Soframycin or Betadine ointment-1, Pain Killers and other medicines. These might take some of your space in the saddle bag but are in my must keep list.
  5. Repair tools – Tool box, puncture repair kit and foot air pump.


3.   KNOW YOUR LIMITS AND PLAN YOUR RIDE ACCORDINGLY

When was the last time when you rode for more than, lets say, 300 kms or more in a day. Never try to override while on long tours on motorcycles. It is advisable to ride in the comfort zone and to avoid over excitement, which may tend to take its toll the next day you ride. As stated by IBA (The iron butt association) Whether you are capable of riding 300 kms or 1300 kms in a day, the ability to make miles tends to decrease as the length of the trip increases. The tendency to ride more not only makes you tired at the end of the day but also it may take its toll on the motorcycle too. So, Plan your ride well as in how many kms to cover in a day, when to take stops (100-200kms in a stretch is fine for Indian roads), where to stay. This will make your trip a memorable one rather than being a butt breaking ride.


4.   FORGET RIDING ON HIGH SPEEDS.

Riding on high speeds are not advisable. Not because our parents and the billboards and hoardings on the road say so, but because it can make your motorcycle giving up on you. It is good to use any motorcycle upto 80% of its peak performance and the bike will never give up. For Example – If the top speed of the bike is 100 kph, ride it below 80 kph on long tours and it will stay with you for a reasonable long time. Because it’s the upper 20% limit which takes too much load on the bike and where it loses life and reliability. Also never ride faster than you can stop.


5.   USE TECHNOLOGY WHEN AVAILABLE- KEEP A TRACKING DEVICE.

A tracking device or a GPS enabled phone will make your ride comfy and to get the knowhow of the route ahead. This also helps in documenting your ride. It also lets you know about the value added services such as roadside assistance and emergency services. The most important part being to keep your family and friends informed always. They should know the your whereabouts which is an invaluable source of peace of mind for both you and those who care about you. Helps them in tracking your location in case of emergencies. These devices can be a cell based  system or a satellite based system( for remote locations).


6.   COMMON HEALTH ISSUES

As discussed earlier that long riding needs immense concentration and skills. But it has its limitations as well. Some of the health related issues which almost every rider encounter are:
1
      Heat strokes and sun strokes : When out riding in sun even with the helmet on and prolonged exposure to sun leads to heat strokes. The symptoms are dizziness, mild headaches, fatigue, and unconsciousness. To avoid these a rider needs to keep himself/herself well hydrated after at short intervals. One should always keep himself covered and seek a cool place for rest.

2    Dehydration : Our body does not have the dehydration guage and it does not signals it before we are thirsty. As we are on the road, our body starts towards dehydration same as the fuel to our bike. The lack of water can causes mental and physical fatigue leading to soreness, cramping and headaches. Whether you feel thirsty or not, drink water at regular intervals, even in winters when you might not feel thirsty. Use of packed bottled water is strongly recommended.
3    
     Body Pains :  Long riding whether on good tarmacs or broken roads takes its toll on the rider’s back, wrists, neck and shoulders. To be frank these pains cannot be eliminated completely as it remains till we ride but can be relieved upto some extent by providing proper cushioned seats, proper riding postures and good physical fitness levels. Exercise daily in order to be a heathy rider. The major area to take the effect is the buttock. The friction between the clothing and the skin and also the lack of ventilation to the groin area leads to chaffing. This can be eliminated by using long underwears made of absorbent fabrics like cotton, partial use of some antiseptic ointments on the skin folds. Avoid garments with thick clothes. Frequent breaks also helps here.


7.   GAS / FUEL MANAGEMENT :

During regular use of bike, you should be knowing how faulty is your fuel guage. Always keep a tab on the mileage to be sure how far you can go. Always keep an eye on the fuel guage while riding. Prepare and plan your ride according to the stops and where to refuel. Carry a litre of extra fuel with you which might help in case you are out of gas. The mileage of the bike gets increased on highways by 3-5 km/l which should never be taken as a sense of complacency during long rides. Remember you are riding a machine which may act adversely anytime. Refuel your bike before you reach the edge of reserve mark.


8.   STAY AWAY FROM TRUCKS TO STAY ALIVE :

Iron Butt veteran and professional truck driver Mary Sue Johnson warns, "A blowout can blast off the truck's heavy mudflap with the force of a bowling ball going 60 m.p.h." Suzy goes on to warn that should the truck run over tailpipe or muffler in the road, you probably won't see it until too late leading to disaster." Additionally, if a trucker has to get on the brakes hard because of a of something in the road or someone has cut them off, (it happens to me once a day or more) AND you aren't alert back there, you will hit the trailer - it happens all the time!". Truck drivers hate anyone following them. When you are behind a truck, you become a liability. Instead of paying attention to the road the truck driver tends to concentrate on who is at its tail gate. One accident and my experience says -  maintain a distance of around 50 metres from the truck. Look at the width of the road and the speed of the truck. If the truck is driving at around 50-60 kmph, look for the chance to overtake from right and with a gap of 3-5 metres from the truck. Don’t forget to look at the tarmac condition and any vehicle coming from behind. Don’t ever hurry in doing so.


9.   KNOW WHEN TO STOP  :

I was behind a truck while returning from Rishikesh. I was not even aware that I was trying to overtake the truck from the left (indecision) just because there was a complete blackout (temptation to close your eyes for a second or two) and I was down with the truck tyres passing just 10 cm off my head. Lesson learnt : as soon as you are tempted to close your eyes even for a second find the nearest safe place and take a nap or rest. Other symptoms, that might have been the cause for that accident, are inability to maintain a desired speed.  Indecision, can’t decide to stop for gas or continue, can’t decide what turn to take are all the symptoms of fatigue. If you find yourself slowing down and constantly having to speed back up, you are ready to fall asleep. Its better to be late than to reach never. Carrying apples when you ride is a good idea. A n apple keeps you awake for at least 40 mins and is good for long rides.


10.  LEARN TO AVOID BOREDOM :

Long rides usually mean riding across areas you might not consider prime riding spots. To some riders, ride from Chandigarh to shimla and on is a beautiful one, but from Delhi to Chandigarh it can be a long, hot boring, dull highway to hell. For times like this, Keep chewing something, sing on your own, talk to yourself, do commentary about the current live road scenario. Some of the other tricks of the trade are to stock up your tank bag with a supply of tart candies that you can munch on while riding. A sour lemon drop will shock your senses and keep you going another twenty miles!

These are my 10 commandments for having a safe and memorable long ride. Adding more to this is always welcomed by the readers. So signing off and wishing all you riders a safe and a happy ride always. Cheers to motorcycling. Ride long, Ride hard.


Pictures Credits :  Bikemodelsinindia motorcyclerisk .
References        :  Xbhp Magazine, Iron Butt Association .

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